I'M having a BABY!

I am having a baby. Yeah! Well…the baby isn’t exactly here or in my belly yet…but I am sure he/she is waiting for me to get my ace together and figure out what the “hail” I am doing. I have been waffling back and forth of to have a baby, or to not have one. Yes I am only 24, but I feel like I have this small window left to continue expanding our family. I am in the process of finishing (slash) taking some post bachelor classes to actually apply to med school. So basically I have about a year and a half to 2 years before I am all done with all the chemistry classes. I would much rather have a baby now, then try and have it when I am in med school dealing with an even nuttier schedule.

I have no pressure from anyone to have a baby. Of course the hubby would like a couple more ( I max out at 4 kids altogether)..oh yeah..and my mom is ragging on me to pop a few more babies out.

Here are my reasons that 2 kids are better than 3:

1. So much easier to find a sitter for 2 kids, rather than 3

2. My hubby and I have been on 2 cruises and want to go on more, I am not even sure we could do that with 3 kids (who will watch the kids for a week or more?)

3. Kids are expensive….another one would surely put me in the poor house, right?

4. My kids are at the age where they sleep blissfully, I am afraid to give that up…I like my routine...and my sleep

5. Things work so good right now, I am afraid to throw the train off the tracks

6. Traveling by car and plane is much easier with 2 kids vs. 3 because DH and I can both take a child..with 3 kids, someone has to sit alone

7. I would have to buy a bigger vehicle, perhaps an suv ( Not so bad actually)

8. Medical insurance…fudge! It’s already expensive

9. My two kiddos are best friends..sure they have their “moments”

10. I don’t have to run into a bathroom in public and self express my milk because my boobs are super engorged (really, this is the best reason of them all)

Here are my reasons why baby #3 is good

1. We know our family is not “complete”

2. My daughter has been asking for a “sister” at every opportunity she gets to open her mouth

3. Because the more the merrier, right?

4. If I wait till I have finished med school…my kids will be so far apart in age!

5. Because babies make the world better

I know my reasons for holding off on baby #3 seem selfish…because mostly they are. One minute I am gung ho ready to try for a baby, then the next …I just have to get things “perfect” before tossing in another monkey into our mix.

Did/Do you have reason for holding off on your second or 3rd, or even 4th child? What finally made you bite the bullet and do it? Leave a comment and let me know.


  1. umm ok I will tell, we have 8 children. 7 living, the last were twins and one did not make it. My husband is Tongan, I have never said I wanted a certain number of kids, I have always been open, as long as we could take care for them, but hubby wanted 10 of course(the tongan way.) lol So have a million. jk

    way cute family by the way!

  2. I'm 26 next month an have no children. My husband and I don't want em!! I can't imagine having 3 by 24... Geez! You are crazy girl!!!

  3. Have you considered being a foster parent? Maybe you could help provide a safe, happy home for babies waiting to be adopted. It's something I've thought about, but we're not in a position to do it at this stage of our lives.

  4. Devri...how do you manage that many kids..that many schedules, and still find time for you? I am seriously impressed...if i had that many, my kids would all need counseling as adults..i would end up being a mean mommie and yelling all day.

    biscuit....you guys never want to have kids? I can see that...children are a big commitment. I always wanted kids, and i always wanted them very close in age so they could be friends.

    Holly...We actually have not thought about Foster parenting. I thought they had very strict rules. We are also moving in about 10 months to another state, so it may not be worth it to even start paperwork or classes for it right now.

  5. thanks for this post. i'm now more into having only 2 kids.

  6. lulu...lol..ohhh noo..i turned you off of having 3 kids! Don't listen to me, what do i know?

  7. I waiver back and forth on this issue too. Though if you were to ask my hubby he'd say that we are DONE! Having two boys is crazy busy! They fight over everything, wrestle, they yell all the time. There is very rarely quiet...only during nap time. A big part of me wants a 3rd...I came from a small family so I've always wanted a "bigger" family. But for many of the reasons you mentioned I am hesitant to have a 3rd. I say, go with your gut. If it feels right, go for it! If it doesn't then don't feel any shame in saying "i have all that i can handle." Don't let anyone pressure you into having more if you don't think you are emotionally, physically or financially ready to do it. I know whatever you decide will be the right decision!

  8. My fiance and I had a few discussions about this. I want 3, he wants 2. Hmm...I guess we will see when we get there. lol I have always wanted to adopt too, so who knows. One step at a time. So let's get to the altar first! lol

    Congrats on your decision. It makes sense before you dive into Med school.


  9. Just about to have my third, couldn't be happier!


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